Here’s what you need to know about “hate sex”

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If you have never heard the term ‘hate sex’, this story is going to an eye-opener. For starters, as the name suggests, hate sex is about having intercourse with someone you don’t like. There’s someone you simply hate and can’t stand. But instead of venting it out verbally, or keeping all your feelings inside, you have an intense sex session (with mutual consent, of course) with them. Since it involves feelings like frustration, disgust and animosity, the session turns out to be pretty rough. And you might just end up having the most ah-mazing sex of your life. Sounds interesting, eh? Read on to know more about hate sex.

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​Say goodbye to frustration?

According to people, hate sex is a great way to get rid of all the angst and frustration you hold for a person. Imagine being passionate, high on energy and emotions on bed for someone you absolutely hate? The sex session is bound to be a steamy yet different experience. It might even mellow down your hatred towards each other. And who knows, the sight of that person may not irritate you that much after the deed.

​Say goodbye to frustration? (via The Brunette Diaries)

​But it might not lead to the solutions you are seeking

No matter how calm people might feel after having hate sex, it cannot resolve any issues. Nothing can replace an open discussion about the problem where you can pour your heart out and find amicable solutions. Hate sex might be a temporary fix but one does not get anything constructive (we are talking about solutions!) out of it.

​Should you do it with your ex?

If you think having hate-sex with your ex-partner will revive your relationship or make him or her forgive you for your mistakes, then you are wrong. It is not a magical wand that will erase all the issues that led to the break-up, right? Hate sex may give a passionate night but not a passionate relationship.

​Should you do it with your ex? (via calgary marriage counselling & mental health services)

​You may feel guilty

If you think there is a slightest chance of feeling embarrassed or guilty after having hate sex, you should back off immediately. You should feel physically satisfied and emotionally drained of all negative feelings after indulging in hate sex. Remember, having sex with a person you dislike should not make you feel bogged down and question your own ethics or morals.

​Set your boundaries

Hate-sex can sometimes get rough. Ensure that your partner is comfortable with that. It is advisable to have a little chat with your partner about their limits. No matter how crazy the situation gets, do not overstep your boundaries. Lastly, using a protection is a must. We don’t need to emphasise on this point more.

​Set your boundaries (via LunchClick)

​Keep this in mind

Before you think of engaging in an intense and wild hate sex session, make sure that you and your partner have a clear understanding about what you are getting into. Sometimes, sex leads to some unexpected feelings, and it might even complicate your relationship. Hence, be clear about the rules of this game and don’t set any wrong expectations. Plus, the deed might lead to satisfaction on physical level but don’t expect anything more out of it.

​Let there be no negativity

The idea of hate sex is to release those negative emotions and vent off all the frustration. But do not forget that it does not mean hatred is good. Don’t think that having hard feelings for someone can always be healed (or rewarded) through sex. In fact, holding any kind of grudges is not the best thing for a relationship.

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